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In Latin America, Gender-Based Violence Against Men Is Little Talked About

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Kalighat painting; “Woman Striking Man With Broom” (1875) Unknown artist. Image of the Public Domain

There are numerous types of gender-based violence, but the term usually refers to physical or psychological violence against any person because of gender or the social interpretations assigned to it, something traditionally seen in violence against women. However, gender inequalities can also affect men. Gender based violences happen to men in a very much lower number, and when they do, they're little talked about. This has prompt us to ask, what do these gender-based violence look like? What are the structures behind them? 

It is important to underline the fact that gender based violence is overwhelmingly done to women. When talking about gender-based violence against men, we look at numers that add up to the consequences of inequalities based to the interpretation of human sexes and shouldn't  minimize the gravety of the numbers that affect women. It is also important to point out that putting a light on the cases in which men are affected by this kind of violence does not mean that the violences that are rutinely done to women are less alarming. Some groups have used the Internet to increase the visibility of the conversation about these problems and to open more spaces, something that's not without controversy. For example, British Mankind, an organization that offers support to male victims of domestic violence, circulated a video in early 2014 to highlight social perceptions of violence toward women perpetrated by men, and violence toward men perpetrated by women. The video remains today a source of frenzied discussion. A lot of the comments against these initiatives fear that these campaigns could play against the efforts to fight violence against women.

In Latin America, where traditions encourage big differences in gender roles, the problem of violence against men perpetrated by women is a very complex topic. The figures are based on complaints, and these acts of violence are not commonly reported to the authorities. In this regard, an essay published on the website of the University of Bio Bio in Chile highlights the problem of domestic abuse toward men and how the inequalities prevent their observation:

Actualmente la violencia hacia el varón apenas se consigna, situación que hasta el momento no permite precisar la real magnitud de varones que vivencian esta violencia […] Dentro del espectro de la violencia intrafamiliar, la que se manifiesta con mayor frecuencia, según investigadores es violencia en la pareja […] Diversos autores en violencia intrafamiliar, coinciden en lo difícil de trabajar el tema, porque entra la campo de las contradicciones, polarizaciones, conforme se explica la problemática, pero ¿qué pasa con la violencia en la pareja cuando se manifiesta contra lo percibido como común?

Currently violence against men is barely recorded, a situation that so far does not pinpoint the actual magnitude of men who experience this violence […] According to researchers, intimate partner violence is the most frequent type of abuse within the spectrum of domestic violence […] Several authors in domestic violence agree that it’s difficult to work on this topic, because it enters the field of contradiction, polarization, as the problem is explained; but, what about intimate partner violence when it manifests as something different than what is perceived as common?

Other terms used to address this topic are domestic or family violence because in many cases the attacks take place within the household, both against men or women. The portal Change the World uses the concept of abused men (hombres maltratados) and exposes some of the complexities of the problem:

Las formas más habituales de maltrato [de mujeres] hacia [hombres] son la humillación, el aislamiento familiar y social, el abuso económico, los celos infundados y la indiferencia afectiva. También el modo de resolución de algunos divorcios puede ser un tipo de violencia psicológica para los hombres, sobre todo, cuando se experimenta una dificultad para mantener los vínculos afectivos con los hijos.

The most common forms of female abuse towards men are humiliation, family and social isolation, economic abuse, unfounded jealousy, and emotional indifference. Also, some types of divorce settlements can be a kind of psychological violence for men, especially when they experience difficulty in maintaining emotional ties with the children.

Other forms of violence

Esther Pineda explains some violent situations, although, according to her, it is hard to recognize them:

Pese a la renuencia de muchos/as por reconocer el hecho de que algunos hombres son víctimas de violencia física, verbal y psicológica a manos de sus parejas mujeres, en el contexto de relaciones sexo-afectivas como el noviazgo, matrimonio o uniones libres, así como, la violencia ejercida contra los hombres por su preferencia sexo-afectiva no heterosexual, estas también son violencia de género.

Despite the reluctance of many to recognize the fact that some men are victims of physical, verbal and psychological violence at the hands of their female partners, in the context of sexual-affective relationships as dating, marriage or civil unions, as well as the violence against men because of their non-heterosexual sexual-affective orientation, these are also types of gender violence.

Through the website administered by Equidad's, a Mexican organization devoted to promote gender equality through policy proposals, Ben Wadham analyzes evidence of violence against men in Mexico, where a certain growth in statistics shows how women´s violence toward men is increasing, although not dramatically. Wadham shows how violence perpetrated by men against men can collaborate with the structure that silences most cases:

El hecho de que la mayor parte de las investigaciones sobre violencia doméstica reporte predominantemente violencia de los hombres contra las mujeres no constituye un ataque personalizado contra los hombres, sino una representación de cómo la violencia masculina amenaza la seguridad de mujeres y hombres. […] Los hombres que son agredidos por mujeres podrían no reportar estos ataques debido a vergüenza y tensiones con sus ideas sobre la masculinidad, o porque un policía podría reírse de un hombre que reporta violencia pues “un verdadero hombre jamás dejaría que su mujer le pegue”…

The fact that most of the research on domestic violence predominantly reports male violence against women, it is not a personal attack against men, but a representation of how male violence threatens the safety of women and men. […] Men who are abused by women may not report these attacks due to shame and tensions with ideas they have about masculinity, or because a policeman could laugh at a man who reported violence because “a real man would never let her woman hit him.”

And from a personal perspective, he adds:

Es contraintuitivo sugerir que las mujeres perpetran las mismas clases de actos violentos, en las mismas formas y por las mismas razones que lo hacen los hombres. […] Más aún, personalmente, como hombre, son otros hombres quienes amenazan mis sentimientos de seguridad, no las mujeres. Para mí, esto implica que los hombres tenemos la obligación y responsabilidad de analizar la violencia masculina, no sólo por el bien de las mujeres, sino también por nuestra propia salud y nuestro bienestar. 

It is counter-intuitive to suggest that women perpetrate the same kind of violent acts in the same ways and for the same reasons that men […] Furthermore, personally, as a man, other men are the ones who threaten my feelings of security, not women. For me, this means that we, men, have the obligation and responsibility to analyze male violence, not only for the sake of women, but also for our own health and well-being.

The legal question

The Argentine group Padres del Obelisco complains and gathers evidence of instances in which a mother prevents a father from having contact with children following a separation. Groups like this one argue that family laws protect women and leave fathers who lose contact with their children without any legal remedies. However, the group has also been challenged for defending cases in which the legal sentence was due to sexual abuse or violence. Sites like IndyMedia Argentina have been vocal about this. 

On his website, Fabio M. Baccaglioni, one of the most famous bloggers in Argentina, takes on this subject and talks about how the law treats people unequally because of the definition of gender and highlights the base element in all inequalities: power.

Y en el poder se centra la cuestión. […] una mujer tranquilamente puede ejercer poder sobre un hombre y si la justicia, legislación y policía actúa de forma tal que las leyes sólo se aplican en un sentido, entonces puede ejercer esa ventaja por sobre su contraparte. 

Es exactamente lo mismo que hacían los machistas (y siguen haciendo) cuando a la mujer no la dejaban ni votar, ni tener propiedad ni nada, ¿hay poder disponible? si lo tengo lo ejerzo en contra de otras personas, en ese caso, otro género. 

And the issue focuses on power. […] A woman can safely exercise power over a man, and if justice, legislation and police act in such a way that laws apply only in one direction, then she may exercise this advantage over her counterpart.

It's exactly what chauvinists did (and still do) when women were not allowed to vote or own property or anything. Is there power available? If I have it then I practice it against other people; in that case, another gender.

  • This is an uninformed article on the reality of domestic violence. In fact since the first studies (back in the 1970s) there is incredible evidence that men are as likely to be the victims do domestic violence as women and that women make up the other half of the perpetrators.

    There have been literally hundreds of peer revied papers on the subject which if you care to review you can do so here: womenandmenlivingtogether.blogspot.ca/2014/11/women-are-most-likely-to-be-victims-of.html

  • Laura Schneider

    Thank you Joe for your comment and sharing the blog. The post, as it is written in the title, is about Latin America countries. We could not find on line statistics from citizen media or official. But if you have links on Latin America, you can share them here. Thank you again.

    • First, I want to thank you for writing this article because I think any light we shed on this problem is good. My only concern is that I often see statistics misused in an attempt to diminish violence that is perpetrated against men. And for some reason I think I originally misread your title to read: “In Latin America, Gender-Based Violence Against Men Is Little to talk About” and not “….Little talked about” so I apologize…I would have certainly made my comment for commending for your effort! So I do apologize.

      My biggest concern with a lot of information being presented today actually aims to diminish the violence perpetrated against men. I really don’t understand why this is done. I believe that ALL VIOLENCE should end….and it shouldn’t be a contest to see who’s more of a victim. But for some reason or another the media only presents the part of the study that deals with violence against women (even when there is data to show for men). an excellent example of what I’m talking about can be seen in this video which I recommend you watch: http://youtu.be/_bHJhPlgU4M.

      It was Erin Pizzey, the first person to open up a women’s shelter in the UK to help women (back in the 1970s) who first understood the reciprocal nature of DV. She wanted to open up a shelter for men but was silenced and eventually threatened to the point where they killed her dog…and she “escaped” to Canada.

      The reason I find this particular topic interesting is because I was part of the problem. As a man (years ago) I found it funny to think that a man could be a victim of DV. We had a neighbor who was continuously beaten up by his wife. He never laid a finger on her (as boys many are taught never to hit girls); so he would be the one on the receiving end. On one occasion my neighbor’s wife beat him so badly my father had to bring him to the Montreal General hospital. Later our whole family (myself included) would sit around the table and laugh about it. Now years later I (thankfully) became more mature and I’m actually feeling guilty for feeling that way. I think what changed for me was my a girl (my first girlfriend) who used to punch me and would kick me (even in front of her friends). When she would do it it was funny to everyone (though my girlfriend didn’t do it to get a laugh – but because she was angry). Though she never inflicted a lot of physical damage I did feel humiliated and vulnerable. I was thankful that I eventually left her and found the right girl. We’ve been married for 15 years and we have an 8 year old daughter. Recently I’ve become more interested in how violence is portrayed to children. My daughter and I watch a lot of television together I a week doesn’t go by without seeing a boy being hit (usually by a girl) for comedy. These are tv shows for children! Yet I see many examples. In one episode from “Good Luck Charlie” a boy was beaten by a girl (he had a black eye and a bloody lip) yet the whole thing was cast as funny together with a laugh track. Besides tv shows there are a lot of movies for children that do the same. A month ago we watched the movie “Diary of a Wimpy Kid” there was one scene where two boys were being hit continuously by two girls while playing tennis….all for the sake of comedy. Yet, we couldn’t imagine that thing being funny if the sexes were reversed….yet for some reason we are diminishing the effect when it is being inflicted on boys.

      • Laura Schneider

        Joe….just for giving some context to the post, the original was written in Spanish and then translated by Diana so our non-spanish readers can understand what is the post about and give some light to what happens in LA. I dont know the reason why stats are not published or if they are, are low numbers (compared to woman) in the cases that are being published in LA.
        Some of the links in the post (which are in the spanish) give the probable reasons why stats are low.
        On the other hand I know is a long topic, on both sides and who knows may be this post could have a second part in the future.
        As for Europe there are more stats.
        I can´t remember which post in GV a man made a comment about domestic violence (when men are victims) and I picked up from there. He had given me an idea of a post! And thanks to him Iam interacting with you.

        I also remember watching the Argentine president when the law on Violence against women was passed, she talked a lot about the law, but she also said: “I also heard that there are men suffering violence”

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