Marrying someone in the diaspora? Mezba reflecting on what his uncle tells him about girls in Canada and Bangladesh. “Apparently, if I marry some girl who has been brought up in Canada or is living somewhere in the West, she would a) not cook for me b) not respect me at all as all girls living here are beyaadober haadi (‘bone’ of rudeness) c) will have had previous relationships and d) will never care for my parents.”